Knowledge Share Description
People often joke that resentment is like taking poison and hoping it will make someone else die. Resentment comes up in relationships of all kinds, between family members, lovers, organizers, roommates, artistic collaborators, and co-workers. Resentment is a reasonable response to frustrating conditions in life, but it can take the pleasure out of doing things we care about with other people. In this knowledge share, we'll look at how to identify resentment, examine what lives beneath it, and transform our practices so that we can connect with purpose and pleasure in doing things we care about.
Date: Sunday December 8, 2026
Time: 3:00pm – 5:00PM EST
Cost: FREE for Living Library hbc members | Sliding Scale $45, $65, $90 for Non-members
We will explore:
Identify patterns of resentment
Identify causes of resentment
Identify costs of resentment
Access grief, anger, and other emotions that might underlie resentment
Transform resentment into boundaries and requests
Transform resentment into acceptance for unsatisfactory conditions, where appropriate
Cultivate feelings of purposefulness in work that we want to do, despite disappointments or losses
Orient toward caring action in difficult times
Love people we live and work with even though they are sometimes annoying and disappointing
Who this Knowledge Share is For
Care workers, healers, and wellness practitioners
Community organizers and educators
People interested in ancestral knowledge and decolonized practices of care
Individuals seeking to deepen personal wellness and its impact on community well-being
Anyone curious about the intersections of personal wellness, collective care, and liberation
Cost
$45 - low income
$65 - standard
$90 - pay-it-forward (if you have financial abundance, this is our pay-it-forward option to fund our full tuition scholarships)
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The zoom link will be sent upon registration. Recording will be available for 30 days.
Please apply here for a scholarship.
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Accessibility Information
Virtual Gathering
*ASR (automated) captioning provided
The knowledge share zoom link will be sent out immediately upon purchase, along with any other necessary information.
Sunday December 8, 2026
3:00pm - 5:00pm Eastern Standard Time
Class will be recorded and available for 30 days. This means you can join from anywhere in the world.
Facilitator
Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation, anti-militarism, and police and prison abolition for the past 25 years. He’s the author of Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law, and Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next) the director of the documentary “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!.” His new book is Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up and Raise Hell Together, and he is the host of a new podcast with the same name.